The Science of Learning:

Understanding How Children Learn Can Change the Way We Teach Forever.

Imagine two children sitting in the same classroom.
The same teacher.
The same lesson.
The same textbook.
The same amount of teaching time.

Yet one child thrives. The other struggles.
Why?

For centuries humanity has tried to solve this mystery. Some believed intelligence was the answer. Others blamed motivation. Some pointed to parenting. Others focused on genetics. Yet educational psychology discovered something fascinating.

Learning is far more complicated than simply exposing a child to information. Given the day and age that we are living in, information can be easily generated with AI.  In fact, one of the biggest misconceptions in education is that teaching is primarily about the topic.

Mathematics.

Science.

Reading.

Language.

History.

But educational psychology tells us something different. Teaching actually has three essential components.

And understanding these three components may completely change the way we think about education.

Many times we hear the comment "the child is giving me a hard time." But have we ever then take a pause and listen to the child? "The child is not giving us a hard time, rather, the child, is having a hard time." Understanding them, is key, before we try to impart what we know to them, because, if we only know the topic, and not the child, that may not be teaching, but simply providing information, and giving information in a different language, that information then can never be received, or at least not received well at all.

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THE THREE PILLARS OF TEACHING

Over time, I have come to believe that effective teaching rests on three pillars. Not one. Three.

Pillar One:
Knowing The Child

Pillar Two:
The Child Knowing You

Pillar Three:
The Topic

Most people focus almost entirely on Pillar Three. The curriculum. The lesson. The textbook. The topic.

But educational psychology repeatedly shows that the first two pillars often determine whether the third pillar succeeds.

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Pillar One: Knowing The Child

Before teaching begins, we must understand who is sitting in front of us. Every child arrives with a different brain. A different developmental profile.

Different strengths. Different weaknesses. Different communication styles. Different fears. Different motivations. Educational psychologists examine:

* Attention

* Working memory

* Language

* Executive functioning

* Sensory processing

* Emotional regulation

A child with weak working memory may forget three-step instructions. A child with language difficulties may understand far less than they appear to.

A child with anxiety may know the answer but be unable to respond. The lesson may not be the problem. The learner profile may be the missing piece.

Great teaching begins with understanding the child.

Knowing the child is essential. A child who appears to be lazy because the work is unfinished may be struggling with a reading, writing or spelling issue. A child who is loud and noisy may be trying to cover up some fears or insecurities. Behavior is communication. And often we see the behavior, but we do not see the struggles underneath. I have students simply just crying while they are reading, breaking their pencils in the middle of a spelling activity or even tearing their worksheets. Are they being naughty? It is always easy to assume a behavior. It takes time, and care to understand a child. Teaching is about understanding first, and then speaking in their language to ensure that it is relatable to the learner. Many times we may tend to forget, that teaching is actually communication, and communication needs to be of the same language. From English to English, Mandarin to Mandarin, Bahasa Melayu to Bahasa Melayu, and Tamil to Tamil. If communication is of two different languages, instructions could be easily misunderstood, and responses are not well received.

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Pillar Two: The Child Knowing You

This pillar is often overlooked. The child must also learn the teacher.

Children need to understand:

* How you communicate

* What your expectations are

* How you explain concepts

* How you give feedback

* What your routines mean

Many children are simultaneously learning two things:

The lesson.
And the teacher.

In a real classroom setting, students could be throwing their workbook on the floor, and look at the teacher's reaction. They will be wondering: "Will Teacher Kevin shout at me? Will he punish me? Will he pick up the book for me? Will he ignore me? Will he ask me to pick it up? What is he going to do?" So student would perform a certain behavior, and observe the teacher's response. Checking their consistency, and their teaching rules and patterns.

When students understand their teacher’s communication style, cognitive load decreases. Predictability increases. Trust develops. And learning becomes easier. Research consistently shows that strong teacher-student relationships improve learning outcomes. Why?

Because learning occurs through relationships. Not merely through information. We find students enjoying classes, not because that math class algebra makes their heart pounds, not that the topic of gravity makes them "fall in love", but that they have a teacher of whom they may enjoy learning from. Learning comes from trust, not so much of the topic itself, but much more of whom it came from. Humans generally learn from whom they trust, not just based on information. When we look at a particular article or a book, we often asked who is behind it, can they be trusted? That applies to students in the classroom as well. Can my teacher, be trusted?

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Pillar Three: The Topic

Only now do we arrive at the curriculum. The content. The knowledge. The skills. The subject matter. Notice that the topic comes third.

Not because it is less important. But because knowledge enters through a learner and through communication. Without the first two pillars, even excellent content can fail.

Knowledge is important. Very important. In this day and age where information and knowledge are widespread, it can be easily misunderstood from what is right and wrong, what are the truth, and what is fake. What is "ARTIFICIAL intelligence"? And what is "TRUE intelligence"?

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THE BIG IDEA

When teaching fails, educational psychology encourages us to ask three questions:

Did I understand the child?

Did the child understand me?

Did I present the topic effectively?

This framework will guide everything else we discuss today. Because motivation, intelligence, assessment, and learning theories all operate within these three pillars.

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THE MYSTERY OF MOTIVATION

Imagine two students completing homework. One studies because they love learning. The other studies because they fear failing. The behaviour looks identical. But the psychology is completely different. Educational psychologists often divide motivation into two major types.

The first motivation is called the "Extrinsic Motivation". Extrinsic motivation comes from outside the individual.

Examples include:

* Grades

* Rewards

* Money

* Praise

* Punishment avoidance

A child studies because:

“I want an A.”

That is extrinsic motivation.

A worker works because:

“I want my salary.”

Also extrinsic.

Extrinsic motivation can be powerful. Humans are motivated, and encouraged based on rewards. Something which they are working towards. Something they do not have yet. Within our Three Pillars model, teachers often use extrinsic motivation to strengthen engagement with the topic.

But there is a danger. If the reward disappears, the behaviour may disappear too. In the scenario of a love story, a boy may work hard to chase a girl, and to provide her a comfortable life, but in the instance of a complete rejection or a break up, the motivation to work hard may even disappear. And imagine if an employee hears a news from the boss saying: "We are short of funds for the next three months. You are expected to work for free." What would likely go into the mind of the employees?

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The second motivation is called the "Intrinsic Motivation". Intrinsic motivation comes from within. The activity itself becomes rewarding.

Curiosity drives behaviour. Interest drives persistence. Passion drives effort.

Examples:

A child reads because reading is enjoyable.

A scientist studies because curiosity drives them.

A musician practices because they love music.

Research consistently shows that intrinsic motivation is associated with:

* Greater persistence

* Better creativity

* Deeper learning

* Higher satisfaction

The challenge for educators is not merely getting students to work. The challenge is helping students want to learn. Instead of giving worksheets, use toys, use physical science experiment. Let it be engaging, let it be fun. Because learning is fun! Learning is by observation, and by observing what we see and what makes us curious. Learning isn't just taking in worksheets or textbooks. Its more than that. Educational psychologists consistently find that intrinsic motivation produces deeper learning. Why? Because the child develops a relationship with the topic itself. And this is when algebra really makes the heart beat. This is when gravity makes a child "fall in love".

The strongest learning occurs when:

The child trusts the teacher. The teacher understands the child. And the child becomes genuinely interested in the topic.
When all three pillars align, motivation becomes powerful.

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Every successful classroom contains these three pillars.
Know the child. Let it be known to ourselves, who are we talking to, who are we communicating to, what are their struggles, what do they like, how do they learn. Then, help the child know us. Be vulnerable, be consistent, be approachable. If every "bad behavior" is being shouted at, being punished harshly, what we are teaching a child is fear. We are teaching them to fear us. But we aren't really teaching them the real lesson of what they should know. Neither do we really know how to help them to overcome the root cause of the behavior. And when we finally study the child and allow the child to study us, then, only then.

Teach the topic. Let the topic be fun. Be engaging. Let it make sense to the child. Let it be relatable. Because if it is not relatable, then it won't be applicable to the child. Pass a 100 dollar note to an toddler, and it will just placed it in its mouth. But teach the toddler to trade that 100 dollar with its favorite toy, and food, and the value of that 100 dollar then starts to appear. Instead of simply teaching the subject, guide the child to observe the subject, to make sense of the subject and to build upon.

When educators focus only on content, they teach subjects
When educators understand all three pillars, they teach human beings.
And when we truly understand human beings, we do far more than improve grades.
We change lives. Human beings are made of flesh and blood. The ability to think, to feel, to love. Teaching involves relationship. And teaching also comes with a chance for us to inspire. To inspire a child to be a Doctor, to be an Engineer, to be a Lawyer, to be a Scientist, to be an artist, and also, to be another fellow Teacher.

That is the real science of learning! It is about us as educators learning the child. The child learning us. And together, we learn the best way to learn the topic. We live today in the age of AI, with specific steps, and plans and knowledge, easily generates in the matter of seconds, what then is the purpose of an educator? But an educator do far more than teaching. We teach, we love. And we inspire. This is what an educator can do, that can't be replaced by a robot.

So I'll leave you with these final thoughts:



"So then let the teachers guide the child to learn. To learn what it means to be a human rather than a robot. To learn what "True intelligence" is and to differentiate it from the "Artificial Intelligence".